Today my thoughts are about family and family structure. When I was growing up I was fortunate to have both parents in the home up until my teens (that’s another article). I also had the input of grandmothers on both maternal and fraternal sides and a maternal great grandmother and at the time it felt like I had too much input on my life. But now looking back I had one of the best upbringings possible and because I loved to talk and listen I received a lot of wisdom and knowledge from them. Looking at the lives of my children and their friends there doesn’t seem to be enough input in the lives of this generation. Yes there are a lot of reasons some we can control and some we can’t. I just sat with my kids the other day and had was like an impromptu family meeting because for some reason I felt out of the loop and they had no problem bringing me up to speed some things we had to discuss in depth and others were just kid stuff but listening to my two teenagers and my tween they are a generation who feels motherless and unloved. Not my children per se ( but they wish I didn’t work)but some of their concerns about friends was saddening some of them are stuck with siblings for days to the point where the child visits friends and sneaks away to get a break from her sibling. Than there is my daughters friend who is pregnant and going through a lot of changes and my daughter who is close to this girl just doesn’t understand why her friend is changing and now pushing her away, and no matter how much I tried to explain it she didn’t understand so I said to her “that why children aren’t suppose to have children”. I know it’s a little ironic coming from me for those who know me. They seem to have a feeling of being lost and just being. So I had to have a conversation of purpose. Our children are not being told that they have a positive purpose. I have always spoke positivity in their lives but they need more confirmation than I have been giving. So I have decided to remind them weekly that they are going to be important and good at whatever it is that they put their minds to. I had to remind them that sometimes our surroundings are test for better things. So if you have a chance to speak positivity and purpose in a child’s life do so you may help them to see outside of their surroundings and give them hope.
I agree. It is never enough positive reinforcement and way too much negative. Negativity is easier to except sometimes...most times. Maybe because positivity can take a lot of imagination acording to where your coming from and where your trying to go to. As adults we need buckests of it so you know the kids need barrels.But great conclusion Troub!e!
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