Happy Hump Day!!!! Well it’s been the topic on every gossip site as well as news and TV shows. The Chris Brown Rihanna Debacle. These two pop stars have a tween and Teen age following and even though it isn’t there job to be role models some look up to them ,So it brings about a more important topic, Is It Ever Ok for a Man to Hit a Woman? What kind of message does this send to the younger generation? Do we as mothers want our sons to think its Ok to beat up there girlfriends? Do we want our daughters being punching bags? Do we want our son’s girlfriends to hit them and provoke them to anger, and how do we advise our kids to deal with these very real situations? Well I for one never felt as though it is right for a man to hit a woman, but than in a conversation it was brought up by a woman that she has intentionally provoked her man to hit her. I instantly thought of my son, how do I advise him to 1 avoid a crazy chic like her and 2 if he ends up in that situation I pray he find a way out without beating her. So than it leads me to believe that in some situations the male is actually the victim. I have said some things in an argument that I knew would push buttons sans why I don’t argue anymore, not worth the energy. So I have all kinds of scenarios in my head some right some not so right. I NEED YOUR HELP on this one. WHAT DO YOU THINK? IS IT EVER OK FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMAN? HMMMMMM I look forward to your comments
I think it depends on the situation. If a man is being attaked by a woman I do think that he has the right to defend himself. Just because it is woman against man does not mean that that woman is not laying on some good licks. It's unfortunate that everybody is against Chris before knowing what actually took place.She may be the one with the problem.
ReplyDeleteI think that there is a seperation between someone that loses their temper and someone who abuses for the sole purpose of control. The reality is that both men and women get angry, both men and women want to hit at times. Thats the factual reality. I dont think i have an answer to the question posed, but i often wonder about it. . I am a six foot five, 300lb man.The question i ask myself is , when do details matter, or do they? If i hit a 200 lb woman ,who has fought her whole life and actually holds her own for , lets say all of five minutes, is that then WORSE then if i hit a 120 lb man , broke every bone in his face and then stomped him while he was down? Is the mere fact that she is a woman, regardless of the physical mismatch between the way that SHE is able to handle me physically and the way that HE is able to handle me physically, enough to make it worse? The second thing that i often wonder is , who determines what hurts more? Seriously. Lets take this example; my woman cuts me up verbally, i mean CUTS ME UP . you all know what i mean . says those personal things that only a spouse can speak about, attacks you on ur sexual performance, financial abilities, father abilities, criminal status, lol , you get the point etc etc. Then the man punches her in each eye and once in the lip. Who designated themselves g-d for the day and came to the unchallengable conclusion that one act hurts more than the other? Now im not saying i know which one hurts more, i dont. I have seen and heard both sides of the coin expressed. Just food for thought.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate both comments and look forward to more, its a sore subject for most because in our society in a situation of abuse between a man and a woman we have always looked at the female as the weaker sex and thus the victim. But listening to some of my associated and co-workers we have alot of female abusers who are closeted and allow the scenario to play out where he is punished for defending him self and them looking the part of the victim.This in no way means I agree with anyone abusing another but when someone has to defend/ protect themselves it a different classification in my eyes
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